People lie, that’s a fact. Here are 5 reasons why?


January 5, 2016 Facebook Twitter LinkedIn Google+ Self Help


5 Reasons People Lie (and What to Do About It)

once a cheater always a cheater You’ve probably heard the term “little white lie” a thousand times, a term used to describe the kind of harmless fib that men and women tell every day. It’s true that not all lies are devious or harmful, but the point is that you have to be clear about the purpose of the lie, regardless of who tells it. First, I will review the most basic reasons for lying in dating and relationships, and I will then share some of the more subtle reasons why people lie. You’ll see that I rotate the pronouns because men and women are guilty of the same types of lies, and they are motivated by the same reasons. 1. He lies because he wants to impress you. Lying to make oneself look more impressive is the most pervasive motivation for lying in dating and romantic relationships. The root of the problem is that most men and women don’t have great self-esteem. They often feel that they aren’t very desirable or appealing physically, or they don’t see themselves as particularly charming, intelligent or interesting. (Nonsense, right?) To make up for their self-perceived inadequacies, someone may lie to make himself appear more interesting or successful. How to deal with this lie : If you feel like your date is embellishing parts of his life to impress you, make an effort to reassure him. Say,”What I am looking for more than anything is someone who is sweet and honest, so the added impressive details are great but totally not necessary!” 2. She lies to avoid something. Your date may lie because she is trying avoid any number of things: a kiss or sexual activity, a date or spending more time together, or meeting your friends or family, among other possibilities. […]