What Men Should Know About Love By 30
December 22, 2015 Men
What Every 20-Something Guy Should Know About Love By 30 (Or Risk Being Alone Forever)
Regardless if you’ve been in a relationship for years, are dating or if you could care less about marriage right now, it’s important to develop a healthy attitude toward love. And I hate to break your balls about it — but by the age of 30, you should have a firm understanding of what you want, what you believe, what you’ll settle for and what you hope for when it comes to your love life.
While the surge of online dating and more and more couples delaying marriage has transformed the romantic landscape in America, some of the same truths still apply to finding, falling and staying in love. From how you treat a woman to what you crave with a companion to how many children you want to have, these dating and relationship experts share the 10 things every man should know about love before he’s 30. No pressure.
How To Meet Women (Not At A Bar)
Relationship and sex expert Dr. Kat Van Kirk says by the age of 30, a man should have more varied interest than just where his next brew is coming from. “You are probably not going to meet the love of your life in a bar,” she says. “Not that it never happens, but typically, people have a better chance of meeting someone compatible when they aren’t under the influence of alcohol and they are around like-minded people.”
How To Get Past The First Date
According to the 2015 Singles in America study, 51% of men imagine their future with their partner on a first date. If you fall into this half, you might have vivid fantasies but actually lack the ability to get past one date. According to relationship expert Lori Bizzoco, you might be feeling unsure how to get into something serious because you’re trying to figure out where you stand in the relationship, even if only subconsciously. “For centuries, men have always saw their place as the caretaker, but now they are trying to figure out where they fit in as women don’t need caretakers as often,” she says.
That It’s Not About Your Wallet
Many men are driven to be successful and to be providers — both for themselves and for the future they visualize. But here’s the thing: what really matters is how you treat someone, not how much money you have. And if you’re holding out until you have it all together to settle down, you might be waiting… well, forever. Dr. Kirk says attracting the right woman will come when you’re able to be vulnerable and know that you might not have everything figured out, but you’re in it for the long haul. […]